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Release Your Life Pressure 2011

Posted by: Cathy in Mental Health


Sometimes it can feel like you are carrying a piano on your back. Pressure can really weigh you down. Too much pressure can make a lot of us angry, feed up or sad. Or simply, over time, knock you out cold with a burnout.

Now I don’t know your mind works but personally I perform better without a lot of pressure. It’s easier to focus on your task and not second-guess or hold yourself back when you feel light and relaxed. Like most problems in life this one is mostly in our minds. You can actually remove some of that pressure before it gets the best of you.

Now, here are a few of the things you can do to accomplish that.

1.      Don’t listen too much to others

You don’t need to worry about what the others might think, or getting their validation. If you use too much time and energy to focus on these things, you may be heading down a pretty harmful road. And the thing is, most people are not thinking about you, what you do and your problems as much as you may fear anyway. They are busy with being focused on their own life and challenges.

An important part of this is to not to see yourself through the eyes of others. Doing that can build a self-image and expectations that become very hard to live up to. It can make you end up filled up with negative feelings and that won’t help anyone. Actually, you don’t really know what people think about you anyway. Your worries about what people may think about you are probably mostly in your head.

What they may actually think about you should not take too seriously anyway since it’s just their opinion, and such things are often more about the guy with the opinion rather than the person or thing they have an opinion about.

2.      Forget about perfectionism

Perfectionism is pretty pointless. It’s just you putting unnecessary pressure on yourself and thereby reducing your ability to do excellent work. Take a look at the next point to find a better replacement for perfectionism.

3.      Focus on the process, not on the outcome

Detaching from the possible outcomes and just keeping your focus on the work you are doing makes it easier to both live and live up to your potential by reducing many of your inner, mental obstacles such as performance anxiety and other worries.

4.      Be OK with mistakes and failure

This one ties in to the two previous tips. If you allow yourself to redefine mistakes you’ll be less prone to get yourself stuck in perfectionism. And the world won’t collapse if you make mistakes or fail.

The morning of the day when you learned to ride a bike you fell off it time and time again. But you just brushed yourself off, perhaps cried for a minute or two and then you got up on the bike again. And towards the afternoon, or the next day, you probably started to become pretty good at riding your bike.

The same applies here. You have work on your skills to sharpen them. See failure or rejection not as something incredible negative that might end your life if it strikes. Redefine it in your mind to lessen the negative emotional impact and the fear. See failure simply as feedback on what you need to improve on. Listen to the advice that failure gives you and you will improve.

5.      Just do it!

If you often get stuck in procrastination and get little done the pressure can start to build up. “just do it” is a great way to get out of an over thinking or procrastinating state and just get going with what you want to do

But that’s not always so easy. Then everybody would be doing it. So, what’s the problem? I think two important factors are that you may get too wrapped up and too closely identified with your thoughts and emotions. But you are not them; you are the observer of them. So, you don’t have to obey what your thoughts or what your inner emotional resistance may say. You can get going anyway.

6.      Cut down on busywork and unimportant stuff.

Feeling like you just have too much to do and too little time for the most important things? Then you probably need to do some decluttering in your life. Eliminate some of the less important stuff.

To prioritize and find what’s really important to spend most of your time on, both at work or in school and live in general you can use the rule.

To not get stuck in that unimportant busywork ask yourself: “is this, what I’m doing right now, useful?” a few times throughout your day. To remember to actually ask yourself this, consider writing it down on a piece of paper and put that paper where you cannot avoid seeing it. Or use that question as your screensaver.

I also think it’s important to realize that you don’t really have to do everything you are doing. You always have a choice. Sometimes there will be big consequences if you choose to do or not do something. But you always have a choice, and if you choose to spend more of your time on the most important stuff and less – or none – on the unimportant things your life will most likely improve in any area you apply this thinking.

7.      Don’t take things too seriously.

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t do a good job, or that you should avoid responsibility. Bu having the attitude that the sky will fall down if something goes wrong is most often inaccurate outside of your own head. And it’s not a good headspace to be in to perform or feel well. I guess this one ties into many of the other tips but I think it’s good to emphasize how helpful a more relaxed attitude can be both for you and the people around you.

Realize you have a choice about what attitude you should adopt, just like with what you choose to do or not to do. It might take some time to replace an old and ingrained habit for another, but over time you can do it.

8.      Take 30 belly breaths

This is more of a temporary solution compared to the ones above. But it’s also an immediate one. If you are feeling pressured and stressed out right now, you can use a few dozen belly breaths or so to  relieve some of that for a while. Here’s what you do:

-          Sit in a relaxing position with your legs apart

-          Put your hands on your stomach. Using your stomach breathe in slowly through your nose. If you are doing it right your stomach will expand you you’ll feel it with your hands

-          Breathe out slowly through your nose and do it with some force so you feel your stomach pull slightly inwards towards your spine.

-          Breathe in and out 30 times. Take slow and deep breaths

-          After you have taken 30 breaths and focused on counting them you should not only feel more relaxed and centered. Your body will also be able to continue breathing in this manner without you focusing on it. And that’s it. Continue with your normal day.

Source from positivityblog.

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written by jfrancis, Wednesday, 07:20 PM, January 26, 2011
I'm what most people would call a perfectionist so naturally i put a lot of pressure on myself. Lately I have been learning not to do so and I could use some of these tips to help me. Thanks smilies/smiley.gif
written by Cathy, Wednesday, 07:25 PM, January 26, 2011
most of us will keep different pressures from our lives. hope that works

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